Harry 
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what is it that needs makes you such a chronic need of another person the problems of loss [Music] are essentially psychological and emotional you must be able to gracefully go ahead with life so this is a choice you have you can either let the world live under your shame or you can be always dying to get into some shade [Music] do you see the fundamental life process within this body it doesn't need it is interdependent is bound to be so the physical nature of your existence is interdependent you have to have to eat food you have to breathe you have to drink water so many things you need services maintenance but that which is generating this life seems to be a complete process by itself he does not need anybody's support do you think so do you feel so yes sir it is soon so what is it that needs makes you in such a chronic need of another person it is the nature of your thought your emotion maybe at a certain stage in your life you're in your physical body now physical body is one thing you did not make it you will see if you as much get very interested in a book you're reading a suspense thriller all your physical needs will disappear have you noticed this you're just reading one trashy suspense thriller but that's enough two hours you didn't think of food this that all the physical needs are just gone isn't it so very easily it can be transcended if you wish to I'm not saying you must but if you wish to the physicality can be mastered very easily it's not that's a server now the problems of loss are essentially psychological and emotional so the psychological structure of Who You Are at least the psychological structure of who you are should be crafted by you isn't it if you craft your psychological structure would you make it into a miserable possibility or a blissful possibility if you did craft I'm talking about what you intend for yourself what you intend for your neighbor may be debatable at least what you intend for yourself is not misery no human being does that so obviously you did not craft your psychological process or the psychological structure consciously the way you want it now does it mean to say poof if it drops tomorrow I'm not bothered I'll go on with life day after tomorrow no no no no it's not about that it is just that you must live in such a way that you're willing to die for somebody right now but if it so happens that they die tomorrow not you they died you must be able to gracefully go ahead with life but today you must live like you're willing to die for this person genuinely so otherwise there is no sanctity to life if you make this into your logical calculation after all I am an independent piece of Life why do I need anybody your life will become utterly ugly you must live like I cannot live without you but tomorrow if it so happens that's tomorrow if it so happens that person disappeared either death or he became free or whatever then you must see this is an independent piece of life but today if you see it your life will become ugly so people are not able to get this distinction either they become ruthless philanders or they become so sappy and lost they are not able to enjoy their relationships most relationships are only they know some Joy only in the beginning after that it's one continuous complication and pain for most people unfortunately this is because you have not understood the nature you have not experienced the nature of this one you are trying to understand the nature of that one it's never gonna happen foreign if you have a wonderful relationship most of the time it's because somebody else is wonderful bad way to live you must have a wonderful relationship with everybody around you because of who you are not because of who somebody else is this a choice you have you can either let the world live under your shade the comfort of your shade oh you can be always dying to get into some shade the choice every human being has [Music] [Music]
